Relational-Experiential Theory
Relational-Experiential Theory (RET) offers a new lens for understanding human growth and regression across the lifespan. This framework synthesises a wide array of psychological science, spanning the Attachment, Trauma, and Positive Psychology bodies of literature. RET translates this into simple principles that can be applied in everyday life. As a broad integrative framework, RET bridges the gap between traditional deficit-based models of psychology and Positive Psychology.
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The first pillar of RET is relational science; from Bowlby’s Attachment Theory through to Fredrickson’s Positivity Resonance, it is clear that the quality of an individual’s relationships substantially impacts their well-being and psychological functioning. The second pillar of RET is experiential science; from the extensive field of Psychotraumatology to Csikszentmihalyi’s Flow State, it is clear that the types of experiences an individual is exposed to also substantially impact their well-being and psychological functioning. RET posits that these two central pillars of human development and trajectory, relationships and experience, are interrelated and that a dynamic interplay occurs between them.
From this central framework, RET proposes that five interrelated continuums determine a person’s functioning and well-being throughout their lives. These include Relationships, Experiences, Mental State, Embodiment, and Growth. This theory suggests that we are constantly moving on all five continuums, with the ups and downs in life, and that a change in one of these will influence change in the other continuums. RET further explains that movement on these five continuums can be understood through the following themes: Trajectory, Set Points, Personal Development, Balance, Adaptability, and Choice.
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The key principles of RET are explained through the “Ten Core Tenets”, which is a summary of the underpinning concepts of the model. RET is further explained in two graphic models: The Dynamic Interaction of Connection and Experience (DICE) Model, and the Base-Progress-Thrive Framework. Both of these graphic models have been adapted into a user-friendly format called the “Connection & Experience Map and Compass”.
